Summer is here! Yay! What an exciting time, right? Unless you, like many other women, are feeling not so excited to strip off the layers and show off your body. Perhaps the idea of facing another bathing suit season makes you want to crawl in a hole and pray for winter. Maybe it stirs up feelings of fear, guilt, and shame instead of the joy and excitement the rest of the world feels.
If you haven’t done it already, yes – it’s time to pull out those summer clothes, try them on, and see what fits. I know the idea of this may fill you with fear of – “What if they don’t fit? How much weight have I gained?”. I remember this fear very well. It came with every season but especially the summer, when all I wanted was to be comfortable in the heat and soak up the sun – yet I was so concerned about how my body looked that I could never fully enjoy myself.
Whether you’re preoccupied with your stomach, thighs, butt, or cellulite – life isn’t meant to be this way. We are here to enjoy our bodies and our lives!
Learning to accept and be comfortable with your body requires some inner mindset work but it IS possible.
Below are some tips to help you embrace your body as it is now so that you can start to enjoy this summer season.
1. Stop Comparing – We all have different bodies just like we have different minds, personalities, and strengths. Instead of dwelling on your perceived flaws, start to recognize your unique beauty. If you can’t see it yet, ask your most supportive friends and family. If you notice that social media isn’t helping with this, remember you always have the choice to ignore, disable, unfollow, or even close your account.
2. Reality Check – If cellulite is your main concern, know that you are not alone. Almost all women have cellulite regardless of their weight or body type. Even thin women have cellulite! We don’t see this in the media because there are several sneaky ways to cover it up. Cellulite is very common and it’s okay. It has nothing to do with the health state of your body.
3. Start to Embody – This means get out of your head and start enjoying your body. Do things you love with your body. If you love to go to the beach and play volleyball, focus on the joy and beauty of being at the beach, playing volleyball, and being with friends rather than how your body looks. I know from personal experience this is much easier said than done and many of us need more profound work to overcome this so my next tips speak to that.
4. Reevaluate Your Self-Worth – Start exploring and recognizing how wonderful you are as a person and that you are so much more than your body or appearance. This is especially important for those of us who have defined our worth by our weight or body size. This inner work of redefining your self-worth is a powerful reframe which can help you start to cultivate self-love. For more on self-love, click here.
5. Appreciate All Your Body Does – Start to recognize all your body does for you, like keeping you healthy, the bodily functions that keep you alive, and how it allows you to do all the things you enjoy. Whether it’s your stomach digesting your favorite meal, your legs taking you for a run, or your arms allowing you to hug a loved one – our bodies are amazing and do so much for us that we often don’t recognize or appreciate. When we come from a place of gratitude with our bodies, it’s much easier to stop fighting and start embracing.
6. Focus On What You Do Like – Start looking for and identifying things you do like about your body and appearance. Challenge yourself to do this on a daily basis. Ultimately, what we look for we find. Once we can start to focus on what we do like instead of what we don’t like, some real shifts can occur.
7. Make the Commitment – If you are really wanting to embrace your body, invest in yourself by working with an empowering coach or counselor to help guide you. Having a role model and supportive guide to show you the way will give you results much faster. The benefits you can experience from this work are life changing, especially for those of us who struggle daily with self-criticism, judgment, and hatred of our bodies.
You really can change your focus to move away from comparisons with others and all the things you don’t like about your body. From here, you can start to embrace and see the beauty in your body and self. This puts you one step closer to learning to love your body and, let me tell you, there is nothing better than that ☺.
If you’re done with hating your body and wanting to embrace it, let’s chat.